Lessons Learned in January

I have been blessed with a good month. I have had hard times, but in those hard times and in the good, I have learned some things.

This last week and weekend, I met with a client who told me about her husband and sealing on Wednesday, I went to institute Thursday, Temple Friday and church and a blessing on Sunday. In each one of those times and places, I felt overwhelmingly that continuing to put Heavenly Father first and HIS will first was the thing that would make me okay and everything okay.

I have this wonderful client named Megan. She was wonderful to work with and on Wednesday I took her to get some lunch because she had had a long morning. I found out that we are similar in some areas. I found out that she is my age and had just gotten married and had a baby within the first year of her marriage. She told me about a really hard relationship that ended painfully right before she went out with her husband. Then she told me how profound her sealing was in the Temple when she was sealed to her husband and I could feel the Spirit so strong in that moment. It was a further confirmation that I want nothing less than a Temple sealing for myself. Little did I know that her painful break-up would weigh heavily on my mind with experiences I had later that night.

Then Thursday night I went to institute. I had had a very interesting day and was going on only 3 hours of sleep. I had stress, a lot of it and confusion. When I was sitting in institute, I felt incredible peace and just felt that everything was going to be okay. I had no idea which way it was going to go, just that I was going to be okay. I really needed that. It made me think how important it is to have Heavenly Father in my life.

Friday, I went to the Temple and felt great peace again. But again in the Temple, I felt that I needed to trust Heavenly Father and put him first. I didn't want to do anything that would hurt my relationship with Him because he is by far the most important relationship I have.

Sunday in church, again, I was stilled in my heart from the stress I had been feeling and felt how important Heavenly Father was and how He always needs to be in my life. If I put Him first, all else will always work itself out and I will be okay. I wanted to make sure that my life was in line.

I received a calling and during my setting apart blessing, I felt everything I had been feeling again, but most of all, peace. I had been feeling that I had been wanting a blessing but I didn't really have any reason to get one. Just before my blessing, I looked back through some of my old blessings(I write them down after) and realized that almost everything up to this point had come true. It talked about how I would learn an enormous amount to be a better mother and wife and for my future and through the past 20 months, I have done just that, learned an enormous amount for all of those things. It has been a hard road, but also very good as well. I have been blessed. I never ever thought that my heart would one day feel light and happy, truly joyfully and giddy happy again, it is has many times. Just this past December, I had no love interest and no dates of anyone I was really interested in but I was just happy in my life. I was fine. I felt good. I didn't have that horrible pain in my heart that I once did. It has actually made a huge difference in what I am trying to go through right now.

I am more in the gray than ever before. I remember Paige saying years ago when she was dating Brett that kept her going with him was that she has gotten over someone before and she could do it again, it was more important to take the step forward still feeling it was right. I have never understood that. Even until this month, the thought of the pain again was paralyzing and terrifying. However right now, I understand what she meant and agree with her. I never thought I would get over the pain from Ian and my childhood combined, but I did and I have been genuinely happy. It is more important to makes choices based on your hopes than on your fears and that is what I am doing. Yes, the thought of having my heart broken terrifies me still, but it isn't stopping me from moving forward. I understand the risks more than ever, yet I am okay with them and understand what it means. I am okay that if my heart does get hurt again or breaks completely, it will ultimately be for my good. But it will be okay that I am sad for a time. Instead of beating myself up for it, I will try, if it happens, to be kind to myself and remember that. But even in moments that I may feel that it won't pass ever, I will know that it will because it has before with the greatest and deepest pain that has ever happened to my heart, soul and mind. I will be okay no matter what happens, in the end. I have peace about this. I still have sad moments and freak out moments but I have felt the Lord's hand in my life bring me peace and guidance IN THE DAY I need it. I don't know what my future holds, I just know what to do in each day. I will know what to do as long as I stay close to Heavenly Father and keep my life in line with Him. That is the plan.

Writing is therapeutic

Writing for me really is therapeutic. But I haven't wanted to share because I don't want to admit feelings to myself. Last week I got a taste of what it feels like to like someone and how it feels when they like me for me. I loved last weekend with him. It was great. I felt wonderful all around. But it is a week later and I am cranky. I'm cranky because chances of anything happening between him and I are extremely slim and I just feel gipped. We live in 2 separate states and the religion difference which is a big deal to me. But I can't seem to get him out of my head this week. Granted, it has only been a week and I know it will pass soon enough. But I am bugged that I am sad about it. I have been good about just letting me feel what I am until today. The good that came out of it and other dating experiences the last month has only continued to refine what I am looking for. That is the blessing. I just really enjoyed feeling how I did last weekend.